This past week I received a question that I had to ponder on for a while.
The question went like this “What if we lose someone but they are still here.
As in divorce?
What if you still hold the love but they do not?
Will that love ever live again?
I am so sorry about your loss of someone who is still physically alive but not physically together with you.
I used to say that divorce is like being in love with a ghost, he/she is alive for everyone else but not for you.
Today I want to introduce you to another truth.
One that I believe is more real for better or for worse than the one that we are humanly aware of.
The answer to ‘will that love ever live again’ is always a yes.
Whether it is here in this time and space experience or in another one, the answer is always yes.
And I love the way you asked this question.
What if you still hold the love but they do not.
Holding love for someone is an experience that is far more complex than we can see.
One of the reasons why separations are so impossible and difficult it is because of something called quantum entanglement.
The word entanglement in quantum physics refers to particles that can be intimately linked to each other even if separated by space, time and everything you can imagine.
Whatever happens to one particle in one location will influence the other.
When there is unity and then a separation the particles can never be the same as they once were.
They have been forever entangled.
They have been forever defined by each other. Even in part.
You are still interacting with the person you are separated from via something called spooky action at a distance. Einstein said that particles such as electrons can also become ‘entangled’ no matter how far apart they are!
This is why it is so hard to truly ever separate with someone we loved or still love.
For you, this connection with him is operating outside of time and space.
It is illogical and impractical through our human eyes.
But if we look at it from a quantum view we would see this connection that does not break no matter what the physical world looks like.
And if you pay attention you will actually start to notice a lot of correlations between the two of you.
The entanglement of love will create an invisible interaction even if you or him wish for it to be different. There is nothing anyone can do about it.
You are connected and intimately linked to each other even if separated by many lifetimes.
Our interactions with one another are internal, energetic and in a subatomic level through a unifying field. (click to tweet)
Here is a breakdown of how this happens.
The whole universe is made up of one energy source.
This energy is a part of everything.
Your thoughts, your particles were joined and when they separated they were connected beyond a physical form.
Your nervous system was beating in alignment with his when you were together and still does now.
If only we could find a way to see this invisible entanglement we would notice that distance, separation and disconnection does not change the fact that you are connected.
Now anonymous, I know that this does not help with the physical feeling of loving someone who is not with you every day.
And it doesn’t make the human separation any easier to deal with just because you now know that you are forever entangled with him.
But what it does do is give an awareness to the fact that there is never any real separation.
There is never a true goodbye. If we can see beyond this physical form or even this one life, then we will see that it has always been ‘until we meet again.’
For now and for this moment know that your love for each other still exists beyond disagreements, beyond human decisions it lives on and on.
And if somehow we were able to be happy with knowing this then we would also find the strength and courage to fall in love again with someone else creating a new entanglement across the universe. After all we are here to love more than once or twice.
With unlimited entanglement to you.
Christina Rasmussen is the creator and founder of The Life Reentry Institute, Second Firsts, The Life Starters and Star Letters. Christina is on a crusade to help millions of people rebuild, reclaim, and relaunch their lives using the power of their own minds. Christina’s work has been featured on ABC News, NPR, The White House Blog, and MariaShriver.com. She is the bestselling author of Second Firsts: Live, Laugh, and Love Again, which has also been translated in Chinese and German and is currently working on her second book on expanding the mind in ways that allows co creation with the forces of the universe. She is also writing her first work of fiction: a science fiction story about a woman on a quest to start over and begin a new life.
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