How do I get through the holidays?

As the Holidays are approaching I thought I would respond to a question from a reader who lost her beloved husband and is having a tough time during the holidays.

The question was sent to me last week and it said:

How do I get through these Holidays intact?

This is the first Christmas without my husband, how to I not fall to pieces?


Dear anonymous,

Losing someone you loved is not easy.

It is especially not easy during the holidays when the collective world around us appears to be celebrating.

You see, when everyone else is buying Christmas gifts and is out and about in the world having a good time, they are all energetically connected to us.

Strangers. Friends. Family. All of them.

Their excitement is sent to our own nervous system.

Their energy is thrown specifically to the heart.

You feel this jolt of energy which in turn affects your body’s grounding levels and it puts you in the wrong kind of excited state.

This excited state when you are in grief mode shakes your nervous system.

Everything in your body then goes against its calm state.

Not only are you dealing with the everyday feeling of pain of a broken heart but now you are being influenced by the world’s ungrounded holiday experience.

As you know I look at our most difficult questions and explore answers that are not your typical or basic human responses.

I do that because the everyday advice we get is not enough anymore.

There is knowledge out there that can truly help us in our evolution.

Today I am going to ask you to do something you are not expecting in this context.

Take your shoes off every time the electric current around you is getting you to this excited state that brings heart palpitations, stress, additional grief and ultimately delays your healing journey.

Why take your shoes off? Because the ground is capable of transferring electrons to or receiving electrons from a charged object in order to neutralize that object. We have to neutralize this charge that is un-grounding us.

This excess charge takes you to the edge of your grief and pain and makes you feel like you will fall to pieces.

You asked how to get through the holidays intact and my answer to that is take your shoes off and get closer to Earth.

First and foremost you will have to find a way to literally put your feet on the ground.

And I don’t mean the floor on your house. I mean soil. Grass. Sand. All of it.

This helps you not only sleep better, have less physical pain of any kind but also reduce stress and alter your mood.

If the stars could speak they would tell us that the Earth under our feet is here to help mend our hearts. (click to tweet)

We are not meant to block it with our shoes, rubber soles and shielding it from our bodies.

Especially during the holidays and while our heart is broken.

If you did just one thing during this tough season take off your shoes and feel the earth for at least 30 minutes every day.

Do it while you are eating, reading, texting even.

I know it’s not the best thing but the priority here is to get our feet on the ground.

That’s it.

Out there in space there is no pain, no nervous system but here there is a lot of it.

A lot of feelings.

This is why the stars are out there, and the earth is right here.

The earth is here to help us with our feelings. I know right?

Of course its also here for our physical existence but we have underestimated the emotional work that earth does for us.

My dear anonymous I know that taking your shoes off is not going to answer all the questions but it will make it easier for you to breathe, survive the energetic field that is strong right now and get you to the New Year. And that is all we need right this moment.

Have an earthly holiday and I hope you are already taking your shoes off.

With stardust,


Christina Rasmussen is the creator and founder of The Life Reentry Institute, Second Firsts, The Life Starters and Star Letters. Christina is on a crusade to help millions of people rebuild, reclaim, and relaunch their lives using the power of their own minds. Christina’s work has been featured on ABC News, NPR, The White House Blog, and MariaShriver.com. She is the bestselling author of Second Firsts: Live, Laugh, and Love Again, which has also been translated in Chinese and German and is currently working on her second book on expanding the mind in ways that allows co creation with the forces of the universe. She is also writing her first work of fiction: a science fiction story about a woman on a quest to start over and begin a new life.

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  • Sharon
    December 22, 2016 at 5:15 am

    I have received many benefits from “grounding ” or earthing” in regards to my grief. In the cold parts of the US, it is not always possible to take off your shoes and touch the earth. BRR, frozen toes! I have found that in the winter it is even beneficial to touch or hug tree. I believe those electrons are transferred from our body through the tree to the earth. Therefore, we get grounded and feel better. It works for me.

  • Teresa
    December 20, 2016 at 9:02 pm

    Love physically ground myself: taking off shoes, pulling weeds and enriching garden soil with coffee grounds and eggs shells for spring vegetables, yoga, meditation, and preparing buiscuits or. cornbread from scratch, mixing by hand until I know that the texture is right. I also adored this painting.

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